Why Do Humans Fear Loneliness?

The fear of loneliness is one of the deepest and most fundamental human fears, with roots in human nature, psychology, and even spiritual dimensions. From the perspective of the Holy Quran, humans are created as social beings, and the need for connection and solidarity is ingrained within them. This need is vital not only for physical survival but also for spiritual tranquility and growth. The Quran clearly indicates that Allah created pairs so that humans could find peace and tranquility in each other's company. One of the most significant reasons humans fear loneliness stems from their inherent nature. Allah created humans with an inclination towards society and communal living. In Surah Ar-Rum, verse 21, it states: "And among His signs is that He created for you mates from yourselves that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought." This verse clearly shows that the purpose of creating pairs is to achieve peace and tranquility. The absence of this tranquility and the lack of companionship can lead to feelings of loneliness and fear. Humans naturally seek intimacy and closeness, and being deprived of this intimacy can cause dread. Furthermore, Islam places great emphasis on the importance of community and the formation of the 'Ummah' (global Muslim community). Muslims are encouraged to be brothers and sisters, to live together, and to support one another. In Surah Al-Imran, verse 103, it is stated: "And hold firmly to the rope of Allah all together and do not become divided. And remember the favor of Allah upon you when you were enemies and He brought your hearts together and you became, by His favor, brothers." This verse underscores the importance of unity and solidarity, indicating that being together is a divine blessing. Therefore, the fear of loneliness can stem from feeling deprived of this blessing and social support. The Islamic community serves as a refuge where individuals feel secure and a sense of belonging, and are supported by others. When these supports diminish or one feels disconnected from them, the fear of loneliness emerges. Another aspect of the fear of loneliness can be attributed to 'spiritual loneliness.' Even when surrounded by a multitude of people, if a person's connection with Allah is severed or they feel distant from Him, they may experience a profound and terrifying loneliness that no amount of company can fill. Conversely, the Quran teaches that Allah is always near, and no one is truly alone unless they distance themselves from their Lord. In Surah Al-Hadid, verse 4, Allah says: "He is who created the heavens and the earth in six periods, then He settled on the Throne. He knows what penetrates into the earth and what emerges from it, and what descends from the heaven and what ascends into it. And He is with you wherever you are; and Allah is All-Seer of what you do." This verse and similar ones offer the comforting message that Allah is present and observing at all times and in all places, and this divine presence can be the ultimate refuge against feelings of loneliness. One who believes in this presence feels no loneliness, even in the most solitary moments; rather, this solitude transforms into intimacy with the Creator. The fear of loneliness is also linked to feelings of vulnerability and inadequacy. When alone, humans may feel that they lack support and assistance in facing life's challenges. This sense of helplessness and weakness can lead to intense anxiety and fear. The Quran advises believers to be patient in the face of difficulties and to seek help through prayer and remembrance of Allah, for through these means, a person connects themselves to an eternal power who will never abandon them and will always provide support. Ultimately, the fear of loneliness is a natural response to fundamental human needs for connection, belonging, and security, which Allah has instilled within us. The way to overcome this fear is not only through seeking healthy and positive human connections but also by strengthening the deep and unbreakable bond with the Lord of the worlds. By believing in Allah's constant presence and trusting in His support, humans can overcome this fear and transform solitude into intimacy with Allah.