The best response to the disrespect of others is through good and polite behavior. Patience and endurance against disrespect can help foster a culture of respect.
Dealing with the disrespect of others from the perspective of the Quran is a matter of great significance. The Holy Quran constantly emphasizes patience and endurance in the face of adversities and advises us to interact with others with respect and kindness. In Surah Fussilat, verse 34, Allah teaches us that 'And not equal are the good deed and the bad. Repel by that [deed] which is more virtuous.' This verse indicates that instead of retaliation or responding in kind, we should respond to disrespect with good behavior and friendliness. For instance, if someone disrespects us, it is better to respond politely rather than harshly. This not only helps to defuse tensions but may also soften the disrespectful party’s attitude. Furthermore, Surah Al-Mu’minun, verse 96 states 'So repel by that [good deed] which is best. And if there comes to you from the devils an incitement, seek refuge in Allah. Indeed, He is Hearing and Knowing.' This verse encourages us to answer bad intentions with kindness. Ultimately, this approach can transform us into individuals with resilience and tolerance, while also promoting a culture of respect and love within society.
And not equal are the good deed and the bad. Repel by that [deed] which is more virtuous.
So repel by that [good deed] which is best. And if there comes to you from the devils an incitement, seek refuge in Allah. Indeed, He is Hearing and Knowing.
One day, by a spring, two friends were sitting together. One of them was always striving for perfection and respect towards others. One day, the second friend asked him, 'Why don’t you confront the disrespect of others?' The first friend replied with a smile, 'I have learned from God that a pleasant tongue is the best way to respond to any disrespect, and it makes me not only respect myself but also earn the respect of others.'