In moments of anger, seek refuge in God, seek help through patience and prayer, and remember God's forbearance and mercy. Controlling anger for His sake brings inner peace and divine reward.
Anger is one of the most powerful and challenging human emotions, and if left uncontrolled, it can inflict serious harm upon oneself and others. The Holy Quran, with its profound insights into the various facets of human existence, offers divine remedies for managing this emotion. Thinking about and focusing on God during moments of anger is not merely a spiritual solution, but also a practical method for regaining peace and making sound decisions. When anger flares, reason and logic are often overshadowed. In such circumstances, turning to God and recalling His infinite power, wisdom, patience, and mercy can act like cold water extinguishing the fire of rage. The first step to thinking about God during anger is to seek refuge in Him. Satan, the clear enemy of humanity, constantly strives to lead individuals astray from moderation and rationality by instigating negative emotions, especially anger. The Quran warns us in numerous verses to seek refuge in Allah from the whispers of Satan. When anger erupts, sincerely uttering 'A'udhu billahi min ash-shaytanir-rajim' (I seek refuge in Allah from the accursed Satan) can be the initial step in disconnecting from satanic provocations and creating space for divine awareness to enter. This supplication is, in essence, an acknowledgment of one's need for help and support from the sole absolute power. Furthermore, one of the most significant pieces of advice in the Quran for confronting problems and negative emotions is patience and prayer. In Surah Al-Baqarah, verse 153, Allah states: "O you who have believed, seek help through patience and prayer. Indeed, Allah is with the patient." Anger is often a result of impatience and an inability to tolerate an undesirable situation. In such moments, instead of reacting immediately and thoughtlessly, one can give themselves time by taking deep breaths, changing their physical posture (e.g., sitting down if standing, or lying down if sitting), and focusing on their breath. Then, remembering that Allah is with the patient increases the inner strength to endure and control anger. Even if a complete prayer cannot be performed at that moment, merely intending to pray and recalling its grandeur can divert the mind from the focal point of anger and guide it towards divine tranquility. Contemplating the attributes of Almighty God is also profoundly helpful. Allah is 'Al-Halim' (the Most Forbearing) and 'Al-Ghaffar' (the Most Forgiving). When a person becomes angry, it is usually due to a feeling of injustice, insult, or a violation of their rights. In these moments, reflecting on God's absolute justice—that He is aware of everything and never wrongs anyone—can temper the anger. If God, despite all the disobedience and sins of His servants, is forbearing and forgiving, then it is fitting for us too to exercise forbearance in the face of others' mistakes and to consider forgiveness. This thought not only reduces the intensity of anger but also helps the individual move towards inner liberation and peace instead of getting caught in a whirlpool of vengeance or resentment. In Surah Al-Imran, verse 134, the Quran praises those who suppress their anger and forgive people, stating: "And those who control their rage and pardon people—and Allah loves the doers of good." This verse clearly indicates that suppressing anger and forgiving others is an act beloved by Allah and is considered among the qualities of the righteous. The ultimate goal of this practice is to achieve divine pleasure and inner peace, which is only attainable through the remembrance of Allah. Practically, in moments of extreme anger, one can remember that everything that happens is under divine will and knowledge. This perspective helps a person to broaden their view from a small, personal problem to the wider horizon of divine decree and destiny. We can tell ourselves: 'Allah is All-Knowing, He is the Witness, He is the All-Wise.' This reminder instills a sense of submission and reliance on God, which ultimately leads to calmness and a reduction in the emotional intensity of anger. Also, one can choose not to dwell on the consequences of anger, but rather to think about the divine reward for controlling it. One who suppresses their anger for the sake of Allah receives immense reward from Him. This reward can be a powerful motivation to curb this destructive emotion. Imagine how Allah will bestow peace and blessings upon our hearts if, instead of aggression and harsh words, we respond with patience and silence. Finally, recalling the transient nature of life and that momentary anger can lead to eternal regrets is also effective in thinking about God. In the divine perspective, nothing is worth losing peace or disrupting one's relationship with God and His creation. When we consider how we wish to appear before Allah and what legacy we want to leave behind, managing anger becomes easier. This outlook guides us towards forgiveness, tolerance, and mercy, all of which are divine attributes. Therefore, thinking of God during anger is essential not only for managing that specific moment but also for sustainable spiritual growth and a life filled with divine peace and contentment.
O you who have believed, seek help through patience and prayer. Indeed, Allah is with the patient.
Those who spend [in the cause of Allah] during ease and hardship and who restrain anger and who pardon the people - and Allah loves the doers of good.
Those who have believed and whose hearts are assured by the remembrance of Allah. Unquestionably, by the remembrance of Allah hearts are assured.
It is narrated in Sa'di's Gulistan that a certain king imprisoned a man for an offense. The man in prison was extremely angry with the king and uttered harsh words. One of the king's ministers, who was a man of wisdom and refinement, told the king: "O King, if you forgive this man for his anger and the words he utters, it will be a sign of your greatness and forbearance. For great men suppress their anger and do not bear grudges." Upon hearing this, the king remembered the greatness and mercy of the Lord, and how He overlooks the sins of His servants. He pondered and decided to forgive and release the man instead of punishing him further. When the man saw his freedom, he learned a lesson from the king's benevolent act and realized that suppressing anger and forgiveness are traits of great men. From then on, he too sought to suppress his anger and practice forgiveness in his own life, for he knew that true peace lay in the remembrance of God and good morals.